Marriage

I know someone who has been married for some time. He said for many years, it was a pleasure to be in wedlock. Then several years ago, like a light switch being flicked, things changed. Her moods now are variable and the fun, the closeness and the companionship aren't the same. Sometimes she denies there is a problem or she seems to blame him for how she feels. When she 'crashes', she blames herself. But the cycle repeats seemingly ad infinitum. He wants help to find a solution.

Sometimes he feels the relationship is like two sharing a flat rather than soul mates. She's distant much of the time and yet goes through the motions of marriage as if all is as it should be. However, with underlying suggestion of resentment toward him. He has thought of a trial separation to see if that improves things but believes if he goes, it needs to be for good as it won't change. She cannot seem to help it.

What do I say, is there an answer? Saying marriage is for better or for worse is cold comfort. It's hard to give advice and yet to say nothing feels weak. Plus this is supposed to be a light 'n funny site. So I guess what can be learned from this is there are people out there who are single and wish for happiness in a relationship. Others are in a union but are not really happy. I think being alone is better than in a relationship you don't want to be in. For any who have found satisfaction in a relationship, spare a thought for those out there who seek happiness.